The list below is a collection of mottos, lessons, and beliefs that I learned throughout the defining decade that was my 20s.
Each one has helped shape the person I’ve become and the one I hope to grow to be.
My hope is that by creating (and sharing) this list of 27 pieces of advice I learned in my 20s, I’ll save you from some of the mistakes I made and the helplessness I felt.
I hope one of them will inspire you to live differently.
I hope one of them will inspire you to live better.
I hope one of them will make you smile and a little wiser.
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So without further ado, here’s the roundup of my 27 pieces of advice for your 20s and beyond.
1. Whatever you are, be a good one…
Learn who you are, what you value, and why. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t hide it. Understand and embrace who you are. It doesn’t matter if you’ve chosen to be the President of the United States, a stay at home mom, a world traveler, or a heroin dealer;
throw yourself fully into it, give it your all, and own it.
After I graduated from Creighton and started traveling I struggled to figure out who I was and what I valued. I quit my job. I left everyone and everything I knew behind. All in the search of some ‘great perhaps’ and I’ll be honest, I caught a lot of shit for it.
Most people didn’t understand why I was ‘throwing my life away”. They had a lot of their own “advice for your 20s” that they thought I should listen to.
I thought I was this care free, fun, and adventurous person who was going to see the world so that I could have interesting stories to share, but it turns out, that’s not who I was…yet.
I was ashamed and afraid to become that person because of what others around me said. I almost called Princess Cruises and told them I wasn’t coming. Even though I felt the pull of the person I really was, I tried to deny it because of other people’s opinions.
Over time, I became more and more comfortable listening to my internal voice and staying true to it. Which has fully shaped the person I’ve become. I’m okay with being ‘that guy’ or people not understanding exactly what I’m doing or why.
I’m okay being the ‘crazy one’ or the first to take the risk and helping others follow suit. I’m okay marching to the beat of my own drum. Never feel ashamed about who or what you are (easier said than done, I know).
Once you understand who you are and what you want; don’t hold back. This is honestly my best piece of advice for your 20s and beyond. That’s why I listed it first.
Go be the best version of it possible, because at the end of the day, no one can be more you than you.
2. Life is all about perception and timing…
There are two huge factors that have shaped my life:
Perception and timing.
Like it or not, your perception determines your reality. Oftentimes, that same perception is based on our experiences (or lack thereof). Our perception forms each and every opinion we have. We owe it to ourselves to understand if our own perception is biased (spoiler alert: it is) and if so, how and why. Only by understanding our own bias and acknowledging it can we find the real truth.
The timing of events also plays a large role in our lives. Timing heavily influences what’s possible and what’s not.
In short, life is not only about HOW we view things but WHEN we are viewing it. You can have the perfect idea or find the girl of your dreams, but if the timing is off it doesn’t matter.
3. You get back what you put out…
You can call it karma, energy, vibe, or luck, but at the core it’s all the same belief—have some charisma and don’t be an asshole.
The universe responds to positivity and hope. If you walk around with a smile on, a little charisma, and are quicker to encourage than anger, you’ll be amazed at how much nicer the world is back to you.
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It may sound obvious, but the more positive you are (and the more good you do) the more positive experiences you’ll have.