After all, I must have learned a few things along the way, right?
The list below is a collection of mottos, lessons, and beliefs that I learned throughout the defining decade that was my 20s. Each one has helped shape the person I’ve become and the one I hope to grow to be.
My hope is that creating and sharing the 27 pieces of advice I learned in my most defining decade, I will save you from some of the mistakes I made and frustrations I felt. I hope at least one of them will inspire you to live differently. I hope you walk away with a smile and a little wiser.
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So without further ado, here’s my roundup of my 27 pieces of advice not just for your 20s but beyond.
1. Whatever you are, be a good one…
Learn who you are, what you value, and why. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t hide it. Understand and embrace who you are. It doesn’t matter if you’ve chosen to be the President of the United States, a stay at home mom, a world traveler, or a heroin dealer; throw yourself fully into it, give it your all, and own it.
After I graduated from Creighton and started traveling I struggled to figure out who I was and what I valued. I had quit my job; left everyone and everything I knew behind in the search of some grand. I’ll be honest, I caught a lot of shit for it. Most people didn’t understand why I was ‘throwing my life away”. I thought I was this fun and adventurous person who was going to see the world and have interesting stories to share, but I was ashamed and afraid to become that person because of what others around me said. I almost called Princess Cruises and told them I wasn’t coming. Even though I felt the pull of the person I really was, I almost denied it.
Over time, I became more and more comfortable listening to my internal voice and staying true to it- which fully shaped the person I’ve become. I’m okay with being ‘that guy’ or people not understanding exactly what I’m doing or why. I’m okay being the first to take the risk and helping others follow suit. I’m okay marching to the beat of my own drum. Never feel ashamed about who or what you are (easier said than done, I know). Once you understand who you are and what you want; don’t hold back. Go be the best version of it possible.
2. Life is all about perception and timing…
I’ve found there are two huge factors that will shape each of our lives. Perception and timing. Like it or not, your perception determines your reality. Oftentimes, that same perception is based on our experiences (or lack thereof). Our perception forms each and every opinion we have. We owe it to ourselves to understand if our own perception is slanted (spoiler alert: it is) and if so, how and why. Only by understanding our own slant and accounting for it can we find the real truth.
The timing of events also plays a large role in our lives. Timing heavily influences what’s possible and what’s not. In short, life is not only about HOW we view things but WHEN we are viewing it. You can have the perfect idea or find the girl of your dreams, but if the timing is off it doesn’t matter.
3. You get back what you put out…
You can call it karma, energy, vibe, or luck, but at the core it’s all the same belief—don’t be an asshole. The universe responds to positivity and hope. If you walk around with a smile on, a little charisma, and are quicker to encourage than anger, you’ll be amazed at how much nicer the world is back to you.
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It may sound obvious, but the more positive you are (and the more good you do) the more positive experiences you’ll have.