Romantic Relationships and Professional Success:
Is there A connection?

“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are.
When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

They say behind every great man is a great woman. While that phrase is remarkably sexist, it still begs the question as to whether a man or woman is more successful in the professional world if they have a romantic partner.

An examination of the subject reveals that there are many cases in which having a partner can truly benefit someone who is trying to experience success in their career.

Factors of professional success

Several factors in a person’s life determine whether or not they will experience professional success in a given field. This list will break down the things you need to work on if you want to become accomplished in your field.

A good education

Being educated means you know about the profession you’re involved in and also means you are constantly learning and getting better. A good education could be formal or informal, but means you keep up with the latest developments in the field.

Curiosity and persistence

You should want to know more about the way that your profession operates and its place in the world. The day that you stop pushing the envelope is the day you start to fall behind others edging their way into the field.

Drive to succeed

Lazy people rarely become successful. They self-sabotage by not putting in the necessary work to get their life on track.

Ability to see opportunities

You can’t just rest on your laurels. You must constantly look for new opportunities to become better or to go further in your field.

A healthy level of self-confidence

You must recognize your expertise and capability without becoming egotistical or believing that you cannot make mistakes. Be confident in yourself, or you will never even try.

Now that you understand the various traits that make a person more likely to be successful in their profession, one has to see how a partner can improve upon these areas.

Specifically, imagine if a partner can help identify and correct some of the problems you have when trying to be successful. They can make you own up to your procrastination habit, do more to sustain your self-education efforts, or make you aware of the fact that you are not the best listener.

Any of these things can hold you back, but a good partner will help you overcome those elements to find success in your career.

Do people who have a romantic partner prone to more professional success?

Given all of the factors that can lead to professional success, will having a romantic partner help you? There is the belief that single people will have more time to work, and they’ll be willing to put in the extra hours that will set them apart from others. However, if you look at the work culture in countries like Japan, that doesn’t necessarily seem to be the case. Sure, it is almost expected that the young, single men will work a great deal, but it also seems that the married men get ahead. After all, they’re perceived as having more of personal investment as seeing the company be successful. Also, people in long-standing relationships tend to be viewed as goal-oriented and responsible for their actions.

So, how does a romantic partner factor in?

How casual relationships may help you deal with stress

One way to look at relationships is that having several short-term relationships that start and end in months might be a detriment. After all, nobody is very productive or successful when they are worried about their personal life. Yet, people that are trying to put a lot of effort into work might not wish to get too heavily involved in a relationship.

Fortunately, casual dates are a solution to this issue. People can satisfy their romantic needs and do away with personal stress while getting the benefit of staying focused on work. They usually meet with other singles in the local bars on Fridays, quench their thirst for communication using preferred websites or even have friends with benefits.

Can an exclusive partner boost your career?

Does having an exclusive partner mean that you will experience greater success when it comes to your personal life? Well, there is something to be said about the positive influence of having a dedicated partner or spouse at home. Studies have shown that married people are perceived in a better light by their business partners compared to people who are single.

If your boss thinks that you’re a responsible person because you are married, then you’re more likely to get benefits compared to a single person. It’s not necessarily fair, but it’s true. Also, it’s known that having a spouse that is as driven and dedicated as you will help keep you moving forward in your career. They won’t feed into the personality flaws that will hold you back, and they will hold you accountable, making you be responsible and dedicated to work.

What about an inner office relationship?

You’re going to spend a lot of time in the office, but does that mean you should date people in the office pool? Some cultures are strongly against fraternization. Generally speaking, the majority of the time, you will want to avoid dating or hooking up with people from the office for many different reasons.

For example, if you end up being in a relationship with someone and they get promoted, you better hope your relationship works because it could affect your future at the workplace. Also, if you’re above someone in the company and date, it could reflect badly upon you and leave the company open to a lawsuit if things go wrong.

There are some exceptions to rules, though. For one thing, if you and a partner just have a fling and then call it quits, it can be a fun experience. Also, if you divulge the state of your relationship with human resources, you don’t have to worry about having a good time. Still, that sort of relationship typically results in hurt feelings and a poisoned office environment.

How may the personality of your partner influence your career?

While we’ve concluded that having a romantic partner has the potential to give you benefits for your career, you must also consider the fact that the personality of the partner has something to do with it. You might want to look for people that have the right kind of personality to help you instead of just hoping that someone will result in positive outcomes.

According to research, some personality traits can have a very positive impact on the development of your career. For example, conscientiousness was one of the aspects that were most positively associated with doing well at one’s job. These partners tended to be the most diligent and reliable partners, giving the working partner the ability to focus more on their performance at work while not worrying as much about what is happening at home. The partners’ ability to manage their personal lives so they don’t affect someone’s professional life, are all very useful for having a great career.

Not all romantic partners are going to be helpful at developing your professional life, though. For example, you might find someone that is too narcissistic to support your needs. They’ll be too focused on their own work or their own life, so they won’t be able to offer you the backing that can help you. However, you have to remember that you don’t necessarily need to have a partner to be successful; it’s beneficial to have a net-zero effect on your relationship by not having a long-term partner than to deal with a negative effect.

Some partners are going to empower you to move forward and be successful, while others can be a drag on your lifestyle. You have to find a partner that is right for you and will support your professional and personal lifestyle.

The question of whether romantic relationships can have an impact on your professional success has been thoroughly answered. Being with a person that can support you and insulate your professional life from personal problems will allow you to focus on being the best worker possible. Even if you are single and feel the need to be with someone for a short time, there are plenty of solutions available for that. All in all, romance can help or hurt your professional prospects, and you must learn what works for you and what doesn’t.

Stay Gold.

Augusto Palmeri

 

 

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